Hello! Welcome to Planet Gabrielle.
I remember probably the week before last, (you know, when I was blogging about friendships and toxic relationships) I wrote that I was going to end up writing about boys. Well, my experiences with boys, anyway. So that’s what I’m going to do today. That’s right, we’re going to be talking about boys! Yay.
According to people who have actually been in a relationship or even relationships already, I haven’t had much experience with boys. But what do they know? Honestly, you don’t have to be in an official relationship to have some pretty wonderful, or pretty terrible and heartbreaking experiences with a boy. I would know; I have never been an official relationship yet, (Wow, I’m turning 17 in a few days. This is a sad life I lead) and I’d say I know enough about boys to have a smart judgement for myself. I know what kind of boy I want, and I know what kind I don’t want. I know what kind to look out for, and I know when to protect myself.
Eventually, all girls learn these things. Sure, you might have to get hurt a couple of time to know something for sure. Would you listen to your friends or your mom if they told you right now that your crush is no good? Probably not. And that’s okay; I know how that is. You get so blinded by the person who you think is so wonderful, and so perfect for you in every way. It isn’t until they show their true self to you, or completely shatter your heart, that you realize that everyone around you was right after all.
I may have never had a boyfriend before, (and probably won’t have one for a while from the looks of it) but that’s only because in the past, I just get the bad ones. You know, the guys who just want to see if they can meet up with you and have you do things for them. I don’t know, do I come off as a sexual person? I would hope not…I still have stuffed animals.
And because I’ve had more than enough bad ones come my way in the past, (I hope I don’t get anymore tbh) I know how to tell if a guy is just not boyfriend material. So I figured, hey, why not blog about this?
So I present to you, 5 Ways To Tell That He’s Just Not Right For You
- If He Says Certain Things Too Early
The biggest example for this is when he tells you that he loves you, and you’ve only been talking for about a month and a half. Especially if he hasn’t done anything to prove this to you, you might want to take a step back and look at this situation from a different perspective. And don’t you dare feel like you have to say it back. You save those three words for when you’re ready. You don’t want to tell someone you love them when you don’t mean it.
2. When He Tries To Force You To Do Something You Don’t Want to Do
This is important with every friendship/relationship you have. Like I’ve said before, you shouldn’t feel like you’re being forced to do anything you don’t want to do. With a guy, this could be sexual things, a lot of the time. If you’re not ready for that, or if you’re just abstinent like I am, (yay for you by the way!) you can just simply refuse. Once, I had a guy who tried so hard to try and convince me of the sexual “loop holes” like oral sex, after I showed him my purity ring and told him how serious I was about being sexual abstinent. We were only talking on the phone, but the way he was talking to me felt very forceful. Nevertheless, I just hung up on him since he didn’t want to listen to me about my decision. I had to do this twice. A couple minutes later, he called back again. He was scared that I was going to hang up on him for a second time, but I promised him that I wouldn’t, as long as he stopped trying to assure me that giving him a blowjob was a way to have a sexual experience without fully having to give up my virginity.
3. If He Doesn’t Honor His Word
If your crush promises you something, and doesn’t deliver, then we have a problem.
No girl deserves to even communicate with a guy who doesn’t honor and keep his word. If your crush promises you that he will call you and he doesn’t, then that is unacceptable. This may seem a little harsh, but trust me, it will help a lot in the long run. If he feels like he might not be able to follow through with his promise, then he should have enough respect for you to let you know. The right guy won’t just leave you hanging.
4. If He Never Hits You Up First
This is never good.
When you have to be the one to start all of the conversations with the person you like, life sucks. You might start to think that you’re not as important to them as they are to you. And if you ever feel this way, then you should do something about it.
I’ve had this problem with only a couple boys I’ve dealt with. Nevertheless, one of the boys I met over the internet really didn’t know how sassy I am. He assumed that I was going to be the one to send him a message first all the time. He had the nerve (literally things got heated) to get upset with me, asking me where I had been for the past couple of weeks. He was livid that I had not contacted him. I told him that I prefer for the guys who wish to get to know me, to contact me first. And once I see a nice pattern of that going, then I will sometimes message them first. He said he was okay with this, but obviously he wasn’t, so we stopped communicating. He also didn’t like the fact that I was “so busy all the time” either. Whatever. I could do better anyway. And so can you if you have a guy who never contacts you first.
5. If He Doesn’t Take You Seriously
Believe it or not, this has actually happened to me before. And something tells me that I’m not the only girl who has experienced this. One of the worst things that could ever happen to you, is when you’re actually trying to tell the guy you’re talking to about your dreams, future plans and aspirations, and he doesn’t take you seriously. I’ve actually had a guy laugh at me after I told him that I want to be an author and have my own fashion line, too. For some reason, he found this to be something impossible for me to do. I didn’t even like this guy in that way, but I was willing to give him a chance. After he laughed at me and made me feel bad about myself, I decided that I didn’t even want to be his friend. It made me even more upset when he asked me for fashion advice, I gave it to him, and he didn’t even consider using my tips. Honestly, who needs that kind of negative energy in their life? Not you, not me, or any other girl for that matter.
Well, that about does it for this blog post. I hope that this list made you laugh, smile or even helped you in some way. If it didn’t, don’t worry, we’re not done talking about boys just yet.
I love yoooou. I hope you enjoy the rest of your week! And always remember, you’re perfect. Perfectly you! Xo