5 Ways To Tell That He’s Just Not Right For You

Hello! Welcome to Planet Gabrielle.

I remember probably the week before last, (you know, when I was blogging about friendships and toxic relationships) I wrote that I was going to end up writing about boys. Well, my experiences with boys, anyway. So that’s what I’m going to do today. That’s right, we’re going to be talking about boys! Yay.

According to people who have actually been in a relationship or even relationships already, I haven’t had much experience with boys. But what do they know? Honestly, you don’t have to be in an official relationship to have some pretty wonderful, or pretty terrible and heartbreaking experiences with a boy. I would know; I have never been an official relationship yet, (Wow, I’m turning 17 in a few days. This is a sad life I lead) and I’d say I know enough about boys to have a smart judgement for myself. I know what kind of boy I want, and I know what kind I don’t want. I know what kind to look out for, and I know when to protect myself.

Eventually, all girls learn these things. Sure, you might have to get hurt a couple of time to know something for sure. Would you listen to your friends or your mom if they told you right now that your crush is no good? Probably not. And that’s okay; I know how that is. You get so blinded by the person who you think is so wonderful, and so perfect for you in every way. It isn’t until they show their true self to you, or completely shatter your heart, that you realize that everyone around you was right after all.

I may have never had a boyfriend before, (and probably won’t have one for a while from the looks of it) but that’s only because in the past, I just get the bad ones. You know, the guys who just want to see if they can meet up with you and have you do things for them. I don’t know, do I come off as a sexual person? I would hope not…I still have stuffed animals.

And because I’ve had more than enough bad ones come my way in the past, (I hope I don’t get anymore tbh) I know how to tell if a guy is just not boyfriend material. So I figured, hey, why not blog about this?

So I present to you, 5 Ways To Tell That He’s Just Not Right For You

 

  1. If He Says Certain Things Too Early

The biggest example for this is when he tells you that he loves you, and you’ve only been talking for about a month and a half. Especially if he hasn’t done anything to prove this to you, you might want to take a step back and look at this situation from a different perspective. And don’t you dare feel like you have to say it back. You save those three words for when you’re ready. You don’t want to tell someone you love them when you don’t mean it.

2. When He Tries To Force You To Do Something You Don’t Want to Do

This is important with every friendship/relationship you have. Like I’ve said before, you shouldn’t feel like you’re being forced to do anything you don’t want to do. With a guy, this could be sexual things, a lot of the time. If you’re not ready for that, or if you’re just abstinent like I am, (yay for you by the way!) you can just simply refuse. Once, I had a guy who tried so hard to try and convince me of the sexual “loop holes” like oral sex, after I showed him my purity ring and told him how serious I was about being sexual abstinent. We were only talking on the phone, but the way he was talking to me felt very forceful. Nevertheless, I just hung up on him since he didn’t want to listen to me about my decision. I had to do this twice. A couple minutes later, he called back again. He was scared that I was going to hang up on him for a second time, but I promised him that I wouldn’t, as long as he stopped trying to assure me that giving him a blowjob was a way to have a sexual experience without fully having to give up my virginity.

3. If He Doesn’t Honor His Word

If your crush promises you something, and doesn’t deliver, then we have a problem.

No girl deserves to even communicate with a guy who doesn’t honor and keep his word. If your crush promises you that he will call you and he doesn’t, then that is unacceptable. This may seem a little harsh, but trust me, it will help a lot in the long run. If he feels like he might not be able to follow through with his promise, then he should have enough respect for you to let you know. The right guy won’t just leave you hanging.

4. If He Never Hits You Up First

This is never good.

When you have to be the one to start all of the conversations with the person you like, life sucks. You might start to think that you’re not as important to them as they are to you. And if you ever feel this way, then you should do something about it.

I’ve had this problem with only a couple boys I’ve dealt with. Nevertheless, one of the boys I met over the internet really didn’t know how sassy I am. He assumed that I was going to be the one to send him a message first all the time. He had the nerve (literally things got heated) to get upset with me, asking me where I had been for the past couple of weeks. He was livid that I had not contacted him. I told him that I prefer for the guys who wish to get to know me, to contact me first. And once I see a nice pattern of that going, then I will sometimes message them first. He said he was okay with this, but obviously he wasn’t, so we stopped communicating. He also didn’t like the fact that I was “so busy all the time” either. Whatever. I could do better anyway. And so can you if you have a guy who never contacts you first.

5. If He Doesn’t Take You Seriously

Believe it or not, this has actually happened to me before. And something tells me that I’m not the only girl who has experienced this. One of the worst things that could ever happen to you, is when you’re actually trying to tell the guy you’re talking to about your dreams, future plans and aspirations, and he doesn’t take you seriously. I’ve actually had a guy laugh at me after I told him that I want to be an author and have my own fashion line, too. For some reason, he found this to be something impossible for me to do. I didn’t even like this guy in that way, but I was willing to give him a chance. After he laughed at me and made me feel bad about myself, I decided that I didn’t even want to be his friend. It made me even more upset when he asked me for fashion advice, I gave it to him, and he didn’t even consider using my tips. Honestly, who needs that kind of negative energy in their life? Not you, not me, or any other girl for that matter.

Well, that about does it for this blog post. I hope that this list made you laugh, smile or even helped you in some way. If it didn’t, don’t worry, we’re not done talking about boys just yet.

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I love yoooou. I hope you enjoy the rest of your week! And always remember, you’re perfect. Perfectly you! Xo

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5 Things All Teenagers Are Tired of Hearing

Hello! Welcome to Planet Gabrielle.

How has your week been so far? I hope it’s been awesome. Smile, if you think about it, it’s almost Friday!

So we’re just going to jump right into this. I decided that this week, I’m going to blog about…

being a teenager.

For as long as I’ve been a teenager, there have been several people telling me some of the same things. If you’ve ever been a teenager, or if you’re one right now, you know what I’m talking about. The redundant questions about college, your appearance, the music you listen to, same old, same old. Not to be rude, but most of the people who discuss these things with me are adults. Now, I get it; you know what it’s like to be 16, almost 17 years old. I understand that, and I totally appreciate the fact that you are willing to help me out along my road to becoming a grown up.

Nevertheless, criticizing me on my tastes, my looks, and my background doesn’t really count as helpful advice. There’s a huge difference between giving advice, and just plain old judging and bashing someone.

All us teens know those little bothersome things adults say to us on a daily basis. So let’s break them down, shall we?

 

I present to you: 5 Things All Teenagers Are Tired of Hearing.

 

1. “All You “Young People” Do Is Get On Social Media!”

It’s not our fault that technology and social media have evolved so much in our generation. Besides, we do other things that tweet and post selfies on Instagram. I’m a writer, so I’m normally on my computer, yes. But you can’t just assume that I’m messaging someone or updating my profile picture. Besides, adults have gotten really into the whole social media thing now, too.

Social media has become a people thing.

 

2. “You Wouldn’t Understand, You’re Only *Insert Your Age Here*.”

Right, so just because I’m younger than you are, I know nothing about life? Okay, I might not be as far along in my life as you are, but that doesn’t mean I’m clueless. Tons of teenagers have already had their first relationship, (not counting me bc you know…I’m me) their first heartbreak, and some have even been bullied, suicidal, been in abusive relationships (sexual, physical, or emotional), so on and so forth.

I know I’m only 16 and that there’s so much I haven’t learned yet, but you have to get me credit for what I have been through. You should give all us teens credit. Seriously, you never know what someone has been through. You can’t just assume they are totally in the dark about everything just because of their age. If you ask me, that’s rather small minded.

 

3. “Your Generation Doesn’t Know What Real Music Is.”

OKAY.

Everyone who knows me knows that I love music so much. I will admit that in the last year or so, I’ve really expanded my ear and started listening to different things instead of just mainstream pop. I was such pop trash, not even kidding. For some reason, it shocks people (mostly adults) when I know the words to an song that was released before I was even born. It’s like, “You’re 16, you’re not supposed to know about this. How do you know this song?”

Really?

Why is it so strange that I know some of the same songs you do? And by the way, not all new music today is so terrible. We have awesome people like Taylor Swift, who writes her own original music, which is one of the main reasons I love her so much. We have Ed Sheeran, who also writes most of his own stuff. There are tons of awesome bands out there, too. You can’t just assume that all music of today is trash. Besides, the best music can’t be discovered by just listening to the radio.

 

4. “You Wouldn’t Last A Day Without Your Phone!”

Wow.

Just so you know, I went a whole year and a half (might have been 2 years, I can’t remember) without a working phone, and I got along just fine. I just got the phone I have now for Christmas last year. I had plenty of my peers asking me how I survived without a phone, but it wasn’t that hard. It bothered me more that I couldn’t make a call home, not the fact that I couldn’t tweet or post a selfie.

Anyway, this has become another people thing; like social media, people have become attached to their phones. So attached, that they forget how pleasant it is to have a face to face conversation with someone. We as people need to work to make this better. Don’t blame one age group.

 

5. “Teenagers Today Don’t Even Care About Their Futures.”

You’re right. All I want to do is cry about growing up and watch Netflix.

NOT.

Just because you see the majority doing something, doesn’t mean that’s how everyone is. There are plenty of successful teenagers today who have their own businesses, their own fashion lines, and who are millionaires already. Zendaya and Bethany Mota just to name two of my faves.

Sorry we’re not all super rich and super successful. But don’t worry. There are still plenty of us out there who care about our future. There are lots of us who are working towards our future goals right now as I’m writing this blog post. Oh hey look, there’s me!

So there you have it. Of course we all know there are more than only 5 things that are really annoying to hear when you’re a teenager in today’s world, or in any generation before. Not gonna lie, this post was mostly channeled towards people who aren’t teenagers anymore…

*cough, cough* adults.

Just keep in mind: you were once a teenager. Doesn’t matter how long ago it was, just try to remember all the stuff you were doing back then, when you’re talking to a teenager today. Don’t be so quick to judge or look down your noses at us. After all, you were in our shoes once, and some way, somehow, you made it out okay. Maybe we will too. Just don’t be so quick to forget your past.

That’s pretty much does it for this blog post. If you want to, share this with your friends, family, people who like to read stuff. Don’t forget to follow me on Twitter and on Instagram! Also, you should totally like my Facebook page.

Check back next Wednesday for a new post! *Karen from Mean Girls voice* On Wednesdays, we blog.

Until next week! And always remember you’re perfect. Perfectly you! Xo

5 Ways to Get Over A Friendship Ending

Hello! Welcome to Planet Gabrielle.

So if you read my blog post last week, you would know that I wrote about my experiences with friendships, and how to tell if you’re in a toxic one. If you haven’t read it yet, or you just want to read it again because you really liked it a whole lot, then click here!

This is going to be sort of a follow up for my last post. You know, a guide to dealing with the aftermath of exiting a toxic or non-valuable relationship.

The process of ending a relationship is kind of hard. You either hit them up saying that you wish to no longer be their friend. Doesn’t matter if this relationship is toxic or not; cutting a connection with someone you’re used to having around is hard.

After you’ve ended the friendship, you might think to yourself, “What’s next?” or you might even begin to regret cutting them out of your life. But do not fret my little cupcakes, Gabrielle is here to help.

Or to at least try to.

 

I present to you: 5 Ways to Get Over A Friendship Ending! (Not necessarily in this order)

 

1. Delete Them Out Of Your Life

This means deleting all the old messages you had with this person, the pictures you took together…not unless you look good in that picture. Then of course, you’re going to to want to keep that. But don’t keep messages just to reread them and torture yourself

 

2. Unfriend/Unfollow Them

As we all know in this day and age, social media is literally everything. Of course a lot of us follow our friends, family and people we know. When you’ve reached the end of a friendship, it’s kind of awkward to still be friends with the person on Facebook or follow them on Instagram…well for me, anyway. This is just a suggestion, you don’t have to do this of course. Nevertheless, when I reach the end of a friendship, (depending on how it ends) I like cut them out of my life completely. Because I know that if I don’t, I’ll be creeping on them and crying over the fact that we are no longer friends.

Doing this feels very refreshing. It does for me anyway. It’s kind of like you’ve come to terms that the friendship is over, and that you appreciate all the good times, but you’re deciding to move on with your life. But be warned, you should save this step for last. You don’t want to cut someone off on social media until you’re absolutely sure you want them out of your life. Just saying.

3. Don’t Stress Over It

After a friendship ends, you may often find yourself thinking about it. You may think about all the things you said and did in the relationship, you may start to think that maybe the way things ended is all your fault. You could even think about hitting your used to be friend up to talk about what went wrong.

Allow me to be the first to tell you: don’t stress over it.

The end is the only closure you need. Let this person move on with their life so you can also move on with yours. Stressing over things that are already said and done is overrated. You have an amazing future to look forward to, filled with awesomesauce friendships. Don’t let the past hold you back from it.

 

4. Cry, Eat, Sleep, Repeat

Of course it’s okay to cry about a friendship ending; even if the friendship was a toxic one.

You should grieve as long as you need to, no matter how silly it may feel or look to other people. It’s alright to feel sad after ending a friendship; especially if that friendship lasted a long time, or if it made a huge impact in your life. Do whatever it is you want to do; you can write about it, you can talk to someone about it. Hey, you even have the right to binge watch Netflix and eat junk food if that makes you feel better.

But if it gets to the point where you’re totally stressing out about it, then that’s unhealthy. You should never stress about the past because honestly, there’s nothing you can do to change it. I learned this the hard way. Maybe this friendship ending was for the best. Don’t worry though, you’ll find new friends because you’re just that cool.

 

5. Socializing is Fun

I know, I get it. If you search Google for ways to get over friendships ending, then you’re going to see this tip on almost every single one of the results that come up. But it’s true.

Meeting new people after ending a friendship definitely feels awesome. You open yourself up to the possibility for new friendships!

Welp, that’s all for this blog post. Kind of a weird post, I know but I wanted to do a follow up from my last one. Next week, I’ll probably write some more about relationships. Maybe we can talk about boys, because why not? I don’t care if my past personal life is up on my blog because like I’ve said before, I like to be real with you guys. You deserve realness. Plus, who wants to read some fake fluffy stuff when you can read about the real thing?

Anyway, I hope you enjoyed this post! Don’t forget to share with your friends and all the people you love and hate. Don’t forget to come back next Wednesday for a new blog post! *Karen from Mean Girls voice* On Wednesdays, we blog.

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I hope that the rest of your week is totally awesome! And always remember you’re perfect. Perfectly you! Xo

 

 

5 Signs That You Need to End Your Friendship

Hello! Welcome to Planet Gabrielle.

So lately, things have been kind of weird for me. And by that, I mean socially.

Of course since I’m home schooled, everyone I meet assumes that I’m anti-social and that I’ve never had any friends at all. Let me just say that my lack of friends has nothing to do with my educational environment. It has everything to do with people.

I don’t know what it is about me, but it feels like every other friendship I’ve ever had ends with the other person just cutting me off for some unknown reason, ignoring me, or backstabbing me. So yes, Bad Blood by Taylor Swift should be my theme song with it comes to relationships. Or even Ignorance by Paramore. That song is life. Sad, but true.

After a history of having weird friendships, you learn how to end the relationship before it gets to be too much.

Want to know how to tell if you’re in a toxic or unstable friendship? Well, you came to the right place.

I present to you: 5 Signs That You Need to End Your Friendship.

 

1. When They Poke You With Their Invisible Knife of Meanness

When the person you consider to be your friend gives you rude, sly comments. For example, I’m a writer. Once upon a time, I had a friend and we’ll call her Ann. I thought I found the perfect friend for me when I met Ann. Nevertheless, our friendship wasn’t meant to last. Normally during the day, I write. Doesn’t matter if it’s working on my blog, school work, or some other personal project of mine. Ann was bothered by this, so she would often say little sly comments about my writing like:

“Oh, of course you’re writing again…” or “Ugh, all you ever do is write!” and my favorite one, “You work way too much.You’re not fun to be friends with…”

When someone insults your work, your passion or you on a daily basis, you should know right then that your friendship with that person is no good. A real friend should make you feel really awesome about all the things you want to do. They should encourage you, and be there to support you. Not try and make you feel bad for working towards your future. Who even does that? Oh, I know; toxic people.

 

2. When You Get Totally Stressed When You See Their Name on Your Phone

Whenever your phone buzzes and you get so excited to finally be getting a new text message, but then you realize that the new message is from them. You groan in agony, wondering to yourself, why did it have to be them? What do they want? Why couldn’t it be from somebody else?

 

3. When They Tell Literally Everyone Your Secrets

You know how you have that really embarrassing secret that you promise you’d keep to yourself, except you broke that promise to yourself and ended up telling you “best friend”?

Have you ever had your “best friend” tell everyone you know that seriously personal secret that you’re totally ashamed of? Well if you have and you haven’t rethought this friendship, then you should be ashamed of yourself. Telling secret or personal things, is never cool. Seriously, does the phrase, “don’t tell anyone this…” mean nothing anymore?

4. When They Try & Make You Do Something You Really Don’t Want to Do

Have you ever had a friendship where the other person is consistently attempting to force you to do something you already told them you don’t want to do? If your friend is trying to put you into a situation that is uncomfortable to you, and they don’t care, then that should let you know right away that this friendship is a bit one sided. You shouldn’t have to do something you don’t feel comfortable doing just to keep a friendship alive. Even if they threaten to cut you off, or they give you the silent treatment, so what? Don’t let it phase you. You deserve better to be in a friendship where you feel like you’re being pushed around.

5. When They Never Hit You Up First

This is actually a really big deal.

Ever since I can ever remember, most (I said most) of the friendships I’ve ever had, seemed to be a bit weird. And by weird, I mean the communication. Normally, I’m always the first person to start a conversation. Whether it be texting, calling, messaging or anything else. Used to be the only time my friends would contact me was if they needed something from me, or if they want to get some information. Never for just a regular “Hey, What’s Up? How Are Things?” conversation.

When you’re the only person keep up the communication, you start to wonder. Maybe this friendship doesn’t mean as much to your “friend” as it does to you. After all these years of having the same kind of friendships, I decided to put an end to it. I know that I deserve to feel important in any kind of relationship I have. One sided relationships, are unfair relationships. Now, when I notice the pattern of no communication from the second party, I just simply stop. I stop sending messages, I stop liking their posts, I just stop. I just figure that if this person is really my friend, they will find their way back to me. And if they don’t, then I assume the friendship is over. They may ask things like:

“What ever happened to you?” or “How come we never talk anymore?”

Oh, I don’t know. Maybe I just got tired of feeling like the only person who cared about our friendship.

You don’t deserve to feel like this either. You don’t deserve to feel any of these 5 things. So, if you notice any thing just the slightest bit off about one of your friendships, you might need to end it soon. I know losing a friend hurts, but sometimes it’s for the best. Not to mention it will make more room for new people to enter your life.

That’s it for this week! Be sure to share this with your friends and family and your pets too. I like animals. Who doesn’t like animals? They’re so cute. Don’t forget to come back next Wednesday for a new blog post. *Karen from Mean Girls voice* On Wednesdays, we blog.

I hope you enjoy the rest of your week! And always remember you’re perfect. Perfectly you! Xo

 

#dontjudgemechallenge

Hello! Welcome to Planet Gabrielle.

What’s up? How has your week been so far? Good,  I hope. If not, well then… *virtual hug*

So for those of you who wanna know, I’m working on my book like crazy. It feels kind of nice having a deadline…I dunno, I like to work. I’m not a workaholic, I promise.

The concert was awesome too. I got some pictures and videos and if you wanna see ’em, just go to my Instagram. My username is planetgabrielle! Annnnd my Twitter is gcbrielle, just in case you wanna follow me on there too. Might post some more pics in the future since my dad got the best ones. Rocky was like even cuter in person…okay I’ll shut up now.

Okay, I am going to try my best to keep this blog post short, but since the matter at hand bothers me greatly, I’m not going to make any promises.

So recently, I was on Instagram (as every good Gabrielle story begins) and I saw that this one girl I was following posted a video. Except in the video, she didn’t look like she normally does; she was wearing big black glasses, she has a drawn on uni-brow, and red dots all over her face. I sort of scrolled past it and didn’t pay it any mind.

The next week, (which was last week) I am on Twitter. I see that there is this account called #dontjudgemechallenge. I even notice that their profile picture is of the girl I saw on Instagram. I noticed then that this “challenge” was becoming very popular. I visit the profile and see that all they post are 15-20 second videos of these people with over sized reading glasses on, with red dots created from markers on their faces, as if the marks were acne. I finally decide to watch one of these videos; it was of this blonde girl. After she recorded herself in the glasses and what not, she showed a small clip of what she normally looks like, with her hair and make up done perfectly. I didn’t understand the point of this whole tag, but after someone explained it, I was is a state of disbelief.

You can try to have some deep meaning to this #dontjudgemechallenge. Nevertheless, we all know that the only reason this tag exists, is to make certain types of people feel badly about themselves, while uplifting “good looking people” and praising them for their looks.

This makes me sick.

Just because someone wear glasses, has acne or thick eyebrows, we should laugh at them? I feel that all these videos are doing, are making people who don’t conform to society’s overblown standard for beauty, feel terrible about themselves. Really, every single last person who has done this challenge should be deeply ashamed. But the sad part is, most of them probably don’t even care. This is like cyber bullying to me; it’s like the whole class laughing at the very things you feel insecure about. But instead of just like 20 other students, it’s the entire internet who’s making a joke out of your appearance.

It made things even worse when I saw a video of someone pretending that they had asthma, by using an inhaler. Like, okay just because someone has a critical lung condition, they are unattractive and deserve to be made fun of? What kind of sick world do we live in?

And everyone at one point or another has had acne. Yes, even I have. I mean, I have eczema which is like even worse. How is having a pimple funny? What are we, a bunch of middle schoolers? There are people who are in their 20’s doing these videos. People who are supposed to be grown ups; people who are supposed to be adults. People who are supposed to be role models.

Girls and guys everywhere who think so highly of themselves, (based on their physical features) created this challenge to show off how “hot” or “sexy” they are. To be honest, looks fade after time. And after a few years of being condensed, your looks will begin to fade; you will start to age. Who’s going to want to be with you when all that’s left of your good looks is a bad attitude and horrid personality?

In the end, these people who come off to be so in love with their physical appearances, will look hideous in my eyes. Because when you make fun of others insecurities just to make yourself look even better, you end up looking just as ugly as you think they are.

Well, that’s all I have to say on this matter. I’m proud of all the people who haven’t caved into this challenge. Because honestly, it’s for the ignorant. I don’t care who are you, if you take part in this, I have literally no respect for you.

Don’t forget to share this post! Like, comment, and come back next Wednesday for something new. *Karen from Mean Girls voice* On Wednesdays, we blog.

I hope you enjoy the rest of your week. And always remember you’re perfect. Perfectly you! Xo

6 Things Only Girls with Eczema Understand

Hello! Welcome to Planet Gabrielle.

Okay so I have a lot of exciting news! Well, not a lot. Maybe just two things…

So last week, I found out that I have a TWO book contract with a publisher! Isn’t that exciting? Don’t worry, I will tell you more details later. All I can say right now, is that I’m working on some fiction. Finally. I’ve always wanted to get some of my fiction out there. I’ve been writing ever since I was little, and my writing as improved a million times over. But that’s another story.

My other exciting news is that I’m going to a concert on Saturday! I’m going to go see R5.

I kinda wanted to go see Fall Out Boy, but they’re touring with Wiz Khalifa (I don’t even know if I spelled his name right) and Hoodie Allen…I don’t know how I feel about this combination. But they’re also touring with MAX who I love so much, but I can’t sit through the other two acts, I’m sorry.

Speaking of going to concerts, I really wanted to make myself some shorts to wear on Saturday. That was a plan that I made up over 2 weeks ago. I make shorts because I’m so tall, and I actually have thighs so shorts that other girls wear don’t really work for me. Nevertheless, something happened to my legs recently, so now I am forced to wear…pants.

DUN DUN DUN!

Pants are a no no for me. Dresses, skirts and leggings are the only things I like to wear. Oh, and don’t even get me started on skinny jeans. I don’t wear those anymore. Well, I prefer not to.

What happened to my legs you may ask?

Well everyone, I have a secret. Something that hardly no one knows.

I have eczema.

For those of who don’t know what eczema is, it’s basically like acne. Only 20 times worse. Eczema is considered to be a skin disease, but let’s not get medical here. A lot of people I know, don’t know about my eczema. I mean, would you want to tell the guy you liked or someone who thinks that you’re so cool that you have a skin disease???

There are just so many things out there for girls with eczema to relate to. Some girls who have it, don’t want others to know, which I understand. But still, I thought I’d make a list about it, because ya know, that’s what I do best. Just a little something for girls like me to relate to.

I present to you: 6 Things Only Girls With Eczema Understand.

 

1. No Dairy/Spicy Food

I lived with eczema for pretty much all my life. But it didn’t occur to me until a couple years ago that there must be something that causes me to flare up, right?

Side note: flare ups are when the eczema gets soooo bad, that you literally can’t do anything, or go anywhere. I’ve actually just stayed in the house for almost a whole month just cause of a flare up.

So being the nerd that I am, I researched what causes eczema. Most everything I read said that it has a lot to do with your diet. Multiple sources said that dairy is one of the main things that causes eczema flare ups.

It was really hard for me, but I gave up dairy. I don’t really eat it anymore, and I’m actually okay with it. Sort of. I really miss pizza. And every once in a while, I might have small slice. Which is much better than having several slices. It’s kind of annoying when you tell your friends or something that you can’t eat dairy, then they go and ask if you can eat this, or that, and then telling people about what you can and cannot eat. Like, really?

Not saying that if you have eczema like me that cutting out spicy food and dairy products will make your life much easier. I recommend you try it. You have to figure out what works for you.

 

2. No, I Can’t Go Swimming

“Why can’t you get in the pool?”

Wow, um let me think about it…do I want to jump in a pool full of chlorine, which by the way is a chemical, when I have open sores on my body? Yeah sure, CANONBALL!

Not really though. I’ll just stay on the edge of the pool and watch everyone else have fun.

 

3. Is It Fragrance Free?

All of the products I use, like soap, body wash, lotion – everything, and I do mean everything, has to be free of fragrance and dyes. So you can imagine how I feel about Bath & Body Works. All those pretty smelling lotions and hand sanitizers, and I can’t even use them. It’s even worse when someone gives you a Christmas or birthday gift containing scented body wash or something. I feel like I have to pretend to be so thankful for receiving flower scented hand creme, but in reality I’m thinking of who I can give it to.

 

4. Sorry, I Can’t Come. I’m “Sick.”

When you’re having the worst flare out ever, and your friends want to know if you wanted to go out with them. But the problem is, you haven’t told them about your eczema because you don’t want for them to be all freaked out and ask a million questions about it. So you have to call them and come up with some sort of excuse. You say you’re sick, which is actually sorta the truth if you really think about it. No way you’re going to tell them about the totally painful and gross stuff that is going on with your skin right now. You actually enjoy having friends so, why would you do that?

5. What’s That?

When you have just a small patch of eczema on your arm or something, and someone just has the need to point it out in front of a crowd of people, which include your crush. “What’s that on your arm?” and “Did you get burned?” are the two questions they love to ask. Sometimes, I just decide to lie and say that yes, I did get burned. Are you done asking me about my flaws now?

6. When Eczema Isn’t Enough, There’s Always Acne!

Yes. Girls with eczema get acne, too. At least I know I do.

Only difference is for me, I’ve never had bad acne. Normally I just get a small pimple every now and then. It just pops up and says, “Wazzup,” then it leaves after I put some tea tree oil on it. I don’t normally break out on my face in acne or eczema, which is why some people think I have “the perfect skin.” I can assure you, I don’t.

Eczema likes to show up in places that I can cover, which I think is very nice of it. For example, when I was little, I would flare up on my legs a lot, and sometimes on my arms. Do you understand why I wear dresses all the time now? I’ve always loved dresses. I just couldn’t wear them because my legs were always covered in eczema. Now that they aren’t, I wear dresses literally every day. Well, except for now. I have a little something, something going on, but no problem. I’m getting better…I think. I can’t tell. Oh what a joy it is to have eczema!

But when you have it under control, it’s like…

Welp, that ends this list. I hope you aren’t freaked out by me or anything now. Don’t worry; eczema isn’t contagious. You have to be born with the gene or get it from being around something when you were an infant. Something like that, I don’t know. I’m not a dermatologist.

Know someone with eczema? You should share this blog post with ’em. Don’t forget to come back next Wednesday for a new blog post. *Karen from Mean Girls voice* On Wednesdays, we blog.

Have a good week (or what’s left of it idk)! And always remember you’re perfect. Perfectly you! Xo

 

 

Copy Cat or Culture Compliment?

Hello! Welcome to Planet Gabrielle.

So first things first, we need to talk.

Don’t worry, I’m not breaking up with you guys.

A lot has been going on with me lately. There are a few projects that I need to focus on. Very important projects. Therefore, I have decided to only blog once a week, instead of twice. Don’t worry, I’m not going to stop blogging completely. Not yet anyway. Also, soon I might be doing some podcasts. I said might.

Okay, so let’s get right into it.

As you can tell by the title, we’re going to be talking about race for like the millionth time on this blog. But whatever, because race it a pretty big thing. Especially in this day and age, am I right?

A few nights ago, I was on Instagram. Most of the accounts I follow on Instagram, are for online fashion boutiques, make up artists, or naturalistas (for those of you who don’t know, a naturalista is a black girl who not only wears her natural hair with pride, but totally slays while doing so).

I just happened to see this post by this one naturalista I didn’t remember following. I dunno, I guess it’s just some automatic reflex to follow a girl with natural hair. This naturalista was posting a picture with text, instead of a selfie. The picture said something like:

Does anyone know a stylist who does box braids in my area? I’m thinking of getting a protective style. Comment below.

A few of her followers tagged some stylists, and one of her followers even said that they wouldn’t mind doing the braids. But of course, seeing as this follower’s profile picture was of a white girl, the naturalista a replied to her comment:

lol bye b*tch

*guy from an infomercial voice* But wait! There’s more!

Another person commented on her photo, asking if it was possible for them to get box braids too, even if their hair is straight. This of course was a white girl commenting this, and the naturalista replied to her comment saying:

wow are you serious? get off my page, white girl.

I know it probably shouldn’t, but for some reason this whole situation bothered me greatly.

I mean, I get it. Some (more like most) black people don’t like the fact that every other ethnic group tries to “appropriate” and “copy” our culture. I understand, and sometimes, it offends me too. I just wish that some of us didn’t have to be so rude about it.

To be honest, other races copy us because we’re awesome. Copying is the sheerest form of flattery, after all. People are so interested in what we’re doing because we’re different. And I for one am very flattered by this. Of course, we do have those few people who take it too far…

I personally don’t care about seeing a non-black person wear a hairstyle that mostly black people have.

I know I’m probably going to get some heat for that, but that’s just honestly how I feel. One ethnic group can’t own a hairstyle, guys. I’m not saying I won’t have to do a double take if I see a white girl rocking some Havana twists. Only because it’s different. But after having to look twice, I would applaud her for making that bold choice. Because not only is this girl going to get stuff from black people saying she’s “trying to appropriate black culture”, she’s going to be getting hate from people in her own people.

Nevertheless, I get offended when the person who is wearing the box braids, twists, or whatever, try to act black just because they think it matches their new look.

That’s taking it too far.

For instance, there was this one blonde white girl who got box braids. She took a selfie and posted it on Instagram with the caption: i look so ghetto. my name should be sha’nae nae lol.

Like, are you serious?

It’s stuff like this that makes me offended by someone else using black culture.This isn’t even appropriating the culture, this is making a joke out of it. Just because you have box braids does not mean you’re ghetto. There’s so much more to being “ghetto” than just how you wear your hair. If you’re serious about wearing braids or something, then just get the braids, and keep your own personality. You don’t need to create some alternate urban persona just because you think you look black now. There’s more to being African American than getting braids, and acting ghetto. I mean, there are plenty of us who don’t act ghetto. I don’t know about you guys, but I used to get asked very often why I talk white.

I still don’t know what that means. Sorry I’m not black enough in your eyes. But for me, the melanin is enough.

Besides, ghetto isn’t even a black word. It has nothing to do with race, it has everything to do with attitude. It is an attitude that a wide variety of people have. If you actually do this really cool thing called research, you will find that the word ghetto does not come from black culture. The term was originally used in Venice to describe a part of a city to which the Jews were restricted and segregated. And that’s fresh from Wikipedia. So there’s a lesson for you to pass on.

Point of this post is, yes there are going to be some people who will “copy” your ethnic group. But just remember that whenever someone copies you, it’s just because they think you’re awesome. Besides, it’s not like they can rock it like you can.

That about does it for this blog post. If you want to, you can comment on this post telling me how you feel about culture appropriation. And yes, I am aware that other cultures get copied and made fun of too, but I’m not apart of every culture. I’m writing from my personal experiences.

Don’t forget to share this with your friends! Like, share, comment, reblog, whatever you wanna do. Come back next Wednesday for more random stuff. *Karen from Mean Girls voice* On Wednesdays, we blog.

I hope you enjoy the rest of your week! And always remember you’re perfect. Perfectly you! Xo